How Does People Pleasing Damage Trust?
People Pleasing isn't honest.
You're hiding your truth in exchange for safety.
Yet...
Transparency is key to trust.
Inauthenticity can be sensed by your partner.
And on a subconscious level, they're gonna feel suspicious of you.
"How can I trust what you say?"
"How can I trust what you do?"
"How do I know you're being honest?"
"How do I know you're not just telling me what I want to hear?"
"...or doing what would make me happy?"
"How do I know you won't resent me later?"
When you're hiding from your partner, you're living in the past.
In present time, it is safe to take up space.
To name your needs.
Your preferences.
Your partner is here in present time.
When you're operating from a trauma response, you're not meeting your partner in present time.
So no wonder they feel mistrusting.
You're projecting the past onto them.
You're not fully present.
If you're ready to relate to your partner in present time, you might be interested in my workshop:
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